I recently talked with a colleague I’ve known for years. About a year ago her company was bought by another, and her job duties changed significantly. She had been getting more dissatisfied over time, so last January she took early retirement. She knew she didn’t want to be a lab technician any more, but didn’t know what she did want to do.
Since money was not a pressing issue, she traveled a little, then started to look around. After a few months, she started a weekly volunteer position. She continued looking, and was even offered a position or two, but couldn’t bring herself to accept anything.
Nine months later, she is working as a substitute receptionist, has put in applications to be a dog-walker and at a gourmet food store, and is studying for the test to become a driver for a florist or caterer. She has finally realized she wants to get away from science, and do something that makes people happy (like bringing them flowers).
It took her a long time to realize this, and even longer to come to terms with it. She had thought of herself as a scientist for so long, she was unable to think of herself as anything else – even when being a scientist was no longer making her happy. It took her over 6 months of being away from the bench, and actually starting regular work in a completely different field, to allow herself to break free from the scientist mold. Even then, she likens the process to mourning a loss – the loss of her identity as a scientist.
Now that she has moved through the mourning, she is starting to be excited by the possibilities. She is exploring all sorts of things, and looking forward to what the next stage of her life may bring. She is looking for that career that will excite her, where she’ll GET to go to work, instead of HAVING to go to work.